11 years ago, I traveled to Greece for the first time. It had been a few years since my verbally abusive relationship ended; but during that trip, I felt like I had finally healed and was ready to date again. I was also in my mid 20s, and starting to feel the pressures from society. When would I get engaged? Would I hit the milestones I was supposed to in the right time frame? Were we dating in vain, or was my partner going to propose? Now, in my mid-30s, my outlook on marriage and relationships has completely changed. I believe some people are only meant to stay in your life for a season, and that longevity is not the primary goal. I also discuss the sunk cost fallacy. Read on...
Tag: marriage
I’m in My 30s and Single ā But ‘Looking’ I’m Not
I hate the question: āWhat are you looking for?ā I also hate any derivative of: āHang in there, you will find him." Because surprise surprise, I am not looking for a man. Iām not looking for ANY one...
Calling Me āMarriage Materialā Is Not a Compliment
Just recently, in a Facebook group discussion, I was called "marriage material." By a rando stranger reacting to my financial successes. And, being the straightforward and direct person that I am, I politely replied, āIām sure you mean well, but that isnāt a compliment." Allow me to state my case...
The Love, Career and Finance Advice Iād Give to My Younger Self (From a Single Woman in Her 30s)
Dear impressionable 20-somethings: DON'T get married just because youāre āsupposed to" or "it's time." Donāt choose your career on āsuitability,ā choose a CALLING. Forget the things that'll make you look rich, INVEST in what truly enriches your life. Let everything you do be best for you; for now or for later, and for the betterment of what really matters in this life.
I Caught a Cheater on Instagram and I Have a Couple Things to Say About It
A married man tried to set up a date with me during a business trip, and I learned he was married through some simple social media investigative work. So guess what. I screenshot that and slid into his wife's DMs.
Stop Asking Me How Old I Am
When Iām asked the dreaded question: āHow old are you?ā, these thoughts ping-pong through my brain in an exhaustive sequence...
Marriage is Not the Be-All-End-All
If never marry, so be it. Donāt feel sorry for me. My life has begun, and it's full of possibilities.
I’m Single, but Complete
I'm two months from my 34th birthday and I just realized I spent pretty much the entire length of my 30s stone-cold single.
Iām In My 30s, Iām Not Married, and Iām Fine
I spent much of my late 20s and early 30s trying to lock down all the things I thought I was supposed to have (and society expected me to have) "by the time I was 30.ā
