Why We Should Stop Looking for Soulmates

11 years ago, I traveled to Greece for the first time. It had been a few years since my verbally abusive relationship ended; but during that trip, I felt like I had finally healed and was ready to date again. I was also in my mid 20s, and starting to feel the pressures from society. When would I get engaged? Would I hit the milestones I was supposed to in the right time frame? Were we dating in vain, or was my partner going to propose? Now, in my mid-30s, my outlook on marriage and relationships has completely changed. I believe some people are only meant to stay in your life for a season, and that longevity is not the primary goal. I also discuss the sunk cost fallacy. Read on...

Calling Me ā€˜Marriage Material’ Is Not a Compliment

Just recently, in a Facebook group discussion, I was called "marriage material." By a rando stranger reacting to my financial successes. And, being the straightforward and direct person that I am, I politely replied, ā€œI’m sure you mean well, but that isn’t a compliment." Allow me to state my case...

The Love, Career and Finance Advice I’d Give to My Younger Self (From a Single Woman in Her 30s)

Dear impressionable 20-somethings: DON'T get married just because you’re ā€œsupposed to" or "it's time." Don’t choose your career on ā€œsuitability,ā€ choose a CALLING. Forget the things that'll make you look rich, INVEST in what truly enriches your life. Let everything you do be best for you; for now or for later, and for the betterment of what really matters in this life.